Living Intentionally– Check Your Attitude


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People who suffer through life and overcome are sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms–to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way (Victor Frankyl, Man’s Search For Meaning).

While we have little control over circumstances or the actions of others, we can control our reactions to them. Anyone can learn how to think more positively and operate with a better attitude, regardless of circumstances, temperament, or intellect.

The way in which one chooses to cross the transitions in life determines whether they fall or get to the other side. Believing you can reach the immediate goal and having a sure footing will enable continuance but also success at leading people to do the same, here are some things to think about:

Who Do You Act Like?

To start thinking positively, begin by acting positively. Most people wait until they feel like it before taking action, but that’s going about it backwards. Instead, you’ve got to act your way into thinking. By putting desires into action, you can establish a habit of thinking correctly and the result is a positive way of acting that reflects that we intend to succeed.

If you tend to think negatively, break that habit by choosing to have and exhibit a plan that is focused on the goal and the outcome of actions. Jesus said that we should count the cost before we act. Our actions reflect an attitude that we can and God will …

What will acting this way do this do? Besides improving your personal well-being, you’ll model the actions you want your followers to take as well. As they see your commitment to being positive, they’ll follow your example.

What Are You Planting?

To reap a successful harvest, a farmer doesn’t plant seeds and then just expect them to grow on their own. He must continually water, weed, fertilize and nurture the growing plants if he wants them to reach maturity.
Likewise, if we want a successful life, we need to spend time every day nurturing our attitude. We must nourish the seeds of positive thinking, or they won’t grow. And if we don’t pay attention to our crop, weeds of negative thinking will spring up and choke the positive plants until they die.

Focus on Success Not Failure

Focus on what’s positive and successful. Don’t feed the weeds. As it says in Philippians 4:8, “Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, and whatsoever things are of good report … think on these things” (KJV).

What Are You Expecting?

Have you noticed that whenever you buy a new car, you suddenly see others driving that same model everywhere? I’m sure you’ve figured out that those other cars were there all along; you just weren’t looking for them before. Now that you have that particular car yourself, your eye is trained to notice it.

People Really Do See What They‘re Prepared To See

That’s why it’s so important to train yourself to look for the best in others. There is good in the worst of us and bad in the best of us, if we look for it hard enough. So whether you notice positive traits or imperfections depends almost entirely on what you choose to see. When we consciously look for the best in people, we allow their good traits to have a positive impact on our life and leadership.

What Do You Really Believe?

You might believe that great ideas come only to the geniuses of the world. But in reality, discovering an idea is more a function of attitude than aptitude. An open-minded, creative person looks for ideas anywhere he can find them. He considers every option and doesn’t reject anything until he’s thoroughly examined it for any good he can find.

Thomas Edison, one of the world’s great inventors, discovered some of his best inventions after other ideas went wrong, and he found another use for them. In fact, that’s exactly what happened with the phonograph. If you keep an open mind and explore every idea presented to you, your people will follow your example. And the new ideas you discover together will contribute to your success.

Many people tend to take attitude for granted. They assume that they’re stuck with the attitude that they have. Yet your outlook on life, as well as that of your people, can be changed. And the impact of positive thinking is so significant that it deserves regular attention. Take an attitude inventory today, and set yourself on the right track of thinking. Before you can change your world, you must first change the way you look at it.

How Can I be Intentional About Helping Others?


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Lifting People Up Instead of Pushing Them Down

Many people are professional critics, self-centered, and see it their life’s mission to make as many people miserable as they can each day. Many churches, work places and other types of organizations have the same type of people – People who take pleasure at pushing someone down, instead of lifting them up. –

Wow!! That may sounds like me or someone else you can readily think of, but before you think of someone else, think of yourself and ask:

How can I be a help instead of damaging others in the daily processes of doing ministry?

It is Person Centered … One person at a time.

FOCUS ON INDIVIDUALS INSTEAD OF THE CROWD

Jesus wasfollowed by a large crowd . . Two blind men shouted, “Lord and Son of David, have pity on us.” Matthew 20:29-30 As long as we label people, we will never be able to help them. Often labels are used to tag people as “groups that do not matter.” One must never forget – everyone matters – Everyone.

Rather than focusing on changing America, or your company, focus on helping one person at a time.

LISTEN SINCERELY TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS

“When Jesus heard them. . ” Matthew 20:32 If we do not care enough to listen, we do not care enough to help bring about change. Listening is hard work. It is amazing how much we can learn with out mouths shut and our ears open.

TAKE TIME TO BE PRESENT TO OTHERS

“. He stopped. . ” Matthew 20:32.  If we want to demonstrate genuine care and interest in people’s live and situations, it is going to take a commitment of our time. We cannot be too busy to help.

DETERMINE THE FELT NEED OF OTHERS

“Jesus asked, ‘What do want me to do for you?’ Matthew 20:31 It is easier to talk about someone

than it is to talk to someone. Do you know why they do what they do? Are they hurting, lonely, ill-equipped for the task at hand? We will never know without talking and listening.

EMPATHIZE WITH OTHERS

“Jesus felt compassion for them” Matthew 20:34 Empathize means to hurt with them. Share their sorrow. In the words of Bill Clinton, to “Feel their pain.” When we understand why, then perhaps we can begin to help bring about change.

TOUCH OTHERS WHERE THE HURT AND NEED IS GREATEST

Matthew 20:34 “Jesus touched their eyes.” What can we do to help meet the needs of others? What kind of help can we offer? What are we willing to invest in others?

Change begins with me. If I want my world to change then maybe I need to change?